Self- worth

Self worth:

 

I have a yearning desire to share with everyone.  To show compassion, to lead, and to give back.   I love working with people and helping them reach their goals.  But one struggle I kept coming back to was my self-worth.  And one MAJOR roadblock was getting past myself. 

One of the BIGGEST issues people have is not believing in themselves.  Every time I had a great idea I told myself 3 scenarios on why it wouldn’t work.  I bashed myself, I put myself down, and I put myself last.  All without even knowing it.  I had so much passion, knowledge, and gifts that I was suppressing because I lived in this false reality that I created myself.  A reality that kept me thinking small.  Why would anyone listen to me? I am inexperienced. I am not the best in my field of expertise and I have my own everyday issues that I battle.  So, yea, why would someone want me to help them? This replayed in my mind for years.  BUT once I realized that these doubts were my strengths, everything changed.

Not every day is perfect.  Some days do NOT go as planned.  (Ahem, Today for example.) How would we grow? How would we expand our knowledge, businesses, our relationships? Through trial and error.  Through heartache. Being burned by someone and rising back up.  Or, our business plans not working the way we thought. The list goes on.   The important thing is to stand back up and do it again. Take another step forward because there is some type of success in everything.

The gifts that have been given to you in this lifetime, are yours and your alone.  You have it within yourself to rise, take on the challenge, grow and achieve your deepest desires.  You HAVE TO BELIEVE IN YOURSELF.  You are unique, as are your talents.  You have something to offer someone that no one else can in this world does.   Don’t deny people your gifts, your experience, or your lessons learned.  Don’t deny people, YOU.

Forgiveness

Forgiveness:

This is a hard one.  This takes practice, patience, and understanding.  The quote, “Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.”  This took me SO long to wrap my brain around.  The understanding of forgiveness takes time, it could take years.  I am still working on forgiveness for things that happened 23 years ago.  It took me so long to realize that I am doing a disservice to myself by holding onto past transgressions.  I was allowing a monster to live inside my head, control my life, and I accepted it.  Hell, I helped it grow! But as a child you don’t realize the effect your thoughts have on your being.  For years I lived with hatred for someone, which turned into self-loathing, which spiraled out of control. 

Until I started to accept it, make sense of it, and grow from it. I shed light on it, instead of darkness.  That is where the healing happens.  When you consciously choose to turn your hatred, self- loathing thoughts to love, kindness, giving.  Your world changes.  Your experiences change.  You change your ego centered mind to the mind of love.

Love yourself, love your life, and love your experiences.  Because no matter how heartbreaking they might be, they shape you into the very being that you are.  You are whole, you are perfect, you are love.  And if those situations would have happened in any other way, you wouldn’t be you.  And how heartbreaking would that be?

Fears:

Understanding your fear:

For so long I ran away from fear.  That minute I felt like I had lost control of a situation I ran.  And I would do everything in my power to convince myself and everyone around me that I made the best choice by leaving. 

When you start to look within yourself and try to understand your feelings, you can come out ahead of them.  Instead of running from my fears, I choose to recognize the feeling I am feeling, and try to understand why.

 Usually with fear, it means you are heading in a direction that makes you feel uncomfortable, uneasy, it’s not within your comfort zone.  So naturally it makes sense, to run from the unknown.  But what if we welcomed it with open arms, as a growth period.  There is a gift that is being given to you within these feelings.  Growth, expansion, a chance to get out ahead from the spot you have been stuck.  To be able to create the life you have dreamed of, that you yearn for.  Take it as a gift, not a weakness.  It is your body’s natural reaction to growing pains.

When we don’t live life with uncomfortable situations, we are blocking our growth.  We are situated in a zone of easiness, AKA our comfort zone. We all know, nothing grows here.  If you start to recognize your fears and say, “ Oh! It is time to learn from this. What am I not noticing in my life that I need to pay attention to? Where do I need to make adjustments?”  I promise you things will change. Be ready for a major shift in your life. Run towards your fears because everything you desire is on the other side. Your goals, dreams, self fulfillment, love, enlightenment, service for others. Take a step forward and start getting comfortable with being uncomfortable.