This is a hard one.  This takes practice, patience, and understanding.  The quote, “Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.”  This took me SO long to wrap my brain around.  The understanding of forgiveness takes time, it could take years.  I am still working on forgiveness for things that happened 23 years ago.  It took me so long to realize that I am doing a disservice to myself by holding onto past transgressions.  I was allowing a monster to live inside my head, control my life, and I accepted it.  Hell, I helped it grow! But as a child you don’t realize the effect your thoughts have on your being.  For years I lived with hatred for someone, which turned into self-loathing, which spiraled out of control. 

Until I started to accept it, make sense of it, and grow from it. I shed light on it, instead of darkness.  That is where the healing happens.  When you consciously choose to turn your hatred, self- loathing thoughts to love, kindness, giving.  Your world changes.  Your experiences change.  You change your ego centered mind to the mind of love.

Love yourself, love your life, and love your experiences.  Because no matter how heartbreaking they might be, they shape you into the very being that you are.  You are whole, you are perfect, you are love.  And if those situations would have happened in any other way, you wouldn’t be you.  And how heartbreaking would that be?